Going behind the scenes of the struggle for gay marriage equality in America, filmmaker Pam Colby follows the stories of couples and GLBTQ people over three decades, uncovering a complex web of emotion. Despite the challenges they endure, all reveal a shared commitment to loving relationships before and after marriage equality. Yet Not in My Lifetime gives the viewer a deeper understanding of deciding to get married, or not.

Filmmaker and storyteller Pam Colby, a baby boomer lesbian, narrates. Her story of coming out in the early 1980s and raising two sons provides a personal perspective on the cost of exclusion and prejudice. The film includes footage from the 1987 March on Washington for Gay and Lesbian rights, Minnesota Representative Karen Clark’s fight for the right to marry, and transgender activist Andrea Jenkins’ successful campaign for City Council in Minneapolis. Featuring the photography of Terry Gydesen.